Posted by: hazen7 | September 14, 2016

To be or not to be

Often times we hear about the women who have strong, successful careers. We as a society praise these women for breaking the glass ceiling, and setting a perfect example for younger women. However, what about the women who choose not to go into the workforce? What about the women who do both? Sometimes it feels as though the women who want to actively pursue being stay at home moms are frowned up.  They are frowned upon because they are embracing their roles as mothers. In the article, Feminine Mystique, it states “We can no longer ignore that voice within women that says: “I want something more than my husband and my children and my home” (Kellerman, 2010)We cannot ignore the women who want to be mothers either. More importantly what about the women who want to be both mothers and have successful careers? Do the women who have successful careers shun them because instead of cocktails they go home and change diapers? Or do the mothers shun them because they traded diapers for briefcases. It shouldn’t matter which avenue women take. Women want to break through barriers and have an equal voice next to men, but in order to achieve this status we have to stop attacking other women who choose not to follow the same path. Granted, not all women attack other women about their choices but some do and that needs to stop. The most important thing in life is that people pursue happiness, it shouldn’t matter how they achieve their happiness, unless it’s illegal, all that matters is that they have happiness.

Source: Kellermen, B. (Ed). (2010). Leadership: Essential Selections on power, authority, and influence. NY:McGraw Hill


  1. I completely agree with all your points. feminist often overlook the other side of the argument. They are quick to blame the women who choose to have a family over a career or the women who want to have it both. However, it seems slightly hypocritical of women to be pointing fingers. As a group, women have been striving for equally and promoting the importance of personal choice and responsibility. If this is the case, then women should have the option to choose the path of life they want. The emphasis is on personal choice and responsibility here. This is the quality that women have been denied in the past. I thought your quote summoned this idea up nicely, “[t]he most important thing in life is that people pursue happiness, it shouldn’t matter how they achieve their happiness, unless it’s illegal, all that matters is that they have happiness”.

    Furthermore, Marie C. Wilson raises an unique perspective. When women begin to take roles as leaders they need to have strong social support systems. These social support systems should be mainly female, and women can, “become leaders honest to [their] values if [they] have enough support from women and from like-minded men” (Wilson, p. xvi, 2007). Women need to support each other as women instead of pointing fingers and tearing each other down. It is important to develop a strong line of female leaders, and no better way than relying on each other. This is the view of feminism that should be promoted.

    It’s About Time [Introduction]. (2007). In M. Wilson C. (Author), Closing the leadership gap: Add women, change everything (pp. Ix-Xviii). New York City, NY: Penguin Books.


  2. Yes, everything here is so accurate. It shouldn’t matter if women decide to continue working after having kids or to stay at home with their children. Additionally, women should be the last people to criticize other women, they should be holding them up and cheering them on in any decision they make. Another aspect to look at, which is not always visible to the public eye, is why some mothers choose to stay at home. For example, once my younger sister was born, the cost of daycare for two children was very close to my mom’s salary as an accountant, therefore my mom stayed home with us instead of putting us in daycare. So, to judge someone’s decisions is bad, but to assume is worse.

  3. Its just so unfair that women have the idea of female competition ingrained in our minds from such a young age, where everything is a competition and you have to beat other girls to win. Other women become predators who are there to ‘steal’ things from us rather than allies in a world that doesn’t always give us a fair shot

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